Concept

Self-Story

The narrative a person carries about who they are, assembled largely without conscious choice and reinforced by self-talk.

The self-story is the running narrative underneath the self-image — the account of 'who I am' built from early experience and repeated in everyday self-talk.

Because it's a story rather than a fixed fact, it can be rewritten: not by denying the past, but by choosing which evidence you keep giving weight to and which you retire.

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Related concepts

Self-Image

The internal picture of who you are that silently determines which behaviours feel natural and which feel like 'not me.'

Identity Resistance

The discomfort produced when behaviour contradicts an established self-image; a signal of change in progress, not of failure.

Identity-Based Change

A model of behaviour change that edits self-image first, on the premise that behaviour follows identity rather than the reverse.

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